Embracing Support: The Power of Letting Go

Why is Asking for Help So Difficult?

In a world where self-reliance is often celebrated, the idea of asking for help can feel daunting. Dr. Nina Polyné sheds light on the importance of allowing support and the transformative power of giving up control.

Understanding Your Feelings

Dr. Polyné acknowledges the common sentiment of feeling unsupported. "No one supports me, nobody's there for me, I'm in it by myself," she notes, is a common thought process of the high achiever clients she often treats in her clinic. It's crucial to sit with these feelings and understand their validity. Recognizing and validating your emotions is the first step towards change.

The Art of Asking for Help

"Are you allowing people to show up for you?" Dr. Polyné asks. This question challenges us to reflect on our openness to receiving help. By asking directly for what we need, we invite others to support us, fostering a sense of community and shared responsibility.

The Fear of Losing Control

Letting go of control can be intimidating. Dr. Polyné encourages us to question, "Are you okay with giving up control?" Often, we catastrophize the outcomes of relinquishing control, fearing the worst. However, by confronting these fears, we can see that the reality is often less daunting than imagined.

The Benefits of Delegation for High Achievers and High Performers

By allowing others to take on tasks, we gain valuable time for ourselves. "Maybe now you have more time to sleep. Maybe you have more time with your family," Dr. Polyné suggests. The trade-off of control for support can lead to a more balanced and fulfilling life.

The Journey of Embracing Support

Embracing support and letting go of control can be a powerful catalyst for personal and professional growth. As Dr. Polyné invites us to reflect, "What are you holding back on?". Consider the areas where you can allow others to step in and support you. You're not alone in this journey. This is the human experience, after all.